December 29, 2015
Post-honeymoon divorce syndrome hits Delhi
First comes marriage, then the honeymoon… then divorce? Delhi’s counsellors and lawyers say that couples wanting to get separated right after their honeymoon is increasingly common today.
Earlier this month, a Lucknow-based couple went to Goa on honeymoon. On the flight back home, the husband got so angry after the argument, that he quietly got off the flight at Patna. Flight officials became aware of the situation while doing a headcount later, and realised that one person on the flight was missing. Delhi-based lawyers and marriage counsellors tells us that this ‘post-honeymoon fight syndrome’ has become very common among Delhiites, and not just with those in arranged marriages, even those who marry for love also seem to face this issue. The most cases come from couples working in the IT and BPO sector. Drinking during the honeymoon, bringing out your past with your partner, getting a massage from another woman, being more conservative than your partner, too many phone calls from the partner’s family – these are some of the bizarre reasons for post-honeymoon divorces, say lawyers and counsellors.
Around 40-45 cases in the past nine months
Dr Nisha Khanna, a marriage counsellor in Sarvapriya Vihar, tells us, “Just recently, I got a case where a couple came to me just after returning from their honeymoon.”
Dr Khanna continues, “The wife complained that the husband started drinking during the honeymoon, and despite her requests, he did not stop. They started quarrelling after that, and it became so severe, that both of them called their respective families to come and help sort out their differences. Later, I found out that one of them was forced into this marriage. I get cases from love marriages also. In the past nine months, I’ve had around 45-50 cases where the couple come to me just after returning from their honeymoon.” Pritha Sen, another south-Delhi based marriage counsellor, says, “Compared to last year, there was a 30% increase in post-honeymoon divorce cases this year. And out of that 30%, 5% of the cases were from couples who had a love marriage. Recently, I got a case where the husband complained that after every two hours, the girl’s family would call and that affected the quality time they were supposed to spend together. The husband got annoyed and said some insensitive things to the wife, and this led to a bitter quarrel. When they returned from their honeymoon, they had made up their minds about getting divorced.”
Couples realise they’re non-compatible on honeymoon
Prachi Singh, an advocate from Defence Colony, tells us, “I get around 3-4 cases in a week where the couples want a divorce immediately after the honeymoon. When I read this news of the man walking away, I wasn’t that surprised, as I get such queries from Delhi almost everyday. Couples come to me just 10 days after marriage, saying they want to get separated. The reason, they say, is that they were not compatible during the honeymoon. I tell them that under Section 14 of the Hindu Marriage Act of 1955, no petition for divorce can be filed within one year of the marriage unless it is of extreme hardship. But the couples are not ready to listen and become impatient. Most of them are from the IT and MNC sectors.” Vidhi Mathur, another city-based lawyer, says, “I had this case once where the husband liked talking about sports and the wife liked talking about cooking, and on their honeymoon, differences started cropping up. By the time they returned home, it had turned into an ego issue and they came to me saying they wanted to separate.”
Couples cite bizarre reasons for divorce
Veerji Sharma, a marriage counsellor from Hauz Khas, says, “A couple came to me once, where the wife said that during their honeymoon, the husband left her and went to a beach in Pattaya to get a massage. The wife got furious. When they returned home, they came to me and the angry wife wanted a divorce. In the past six months, I’ve received around 25-30 cases where right after the honeymoon, because of some bizarre reason, the couple wants to separate.” Vandana Jain, another counsellor from West Delhi, says, “Honeymoon fights resulting in a separation is increasing in Delhi and the NCR. Whether you blame their lifestyle or just mood swings, I’ve been getting queries from at least 5-7 people on a daily basis. And most of these cases are direct results of unpleasant experiences during honeymoons. Reasons such as, ‘my husband danced with another woman during our honeymoon’ or ‘he left me in the restaurant alone to buy shoes for himself’, are given when I hold a counselling session with couples.”
This Trend is on the rise in Delhi: Marriage counsellors
Marriage counsellor Dr Rekha Mehta from Inder Puri, tells us, “This trend is on the rise in Delhi. As compared to last year, this year, I got 30% more such cases, which is a clear indication that this kind of divorce is being increasingly seen. Earlier, couples who’ve been married for two to five years would get separated; now, after just 15 days of marriage, couples walk up to me and start telling me their concerns, based on which they want a divorce.” Niharika Wadhwa, another marriage counsellor, says, “Last year, I got around 10 cases on an average every month, but this year, every week, I get around 3-4 such cases.”
Earlier this month, a Lucknow-based couple went to Goa on honeymoon. On the flight back home, the husband got so angry after the argument, that he quietly got off the flight at Patna. Flight officials became aware of the situation while doing a headcount later, and realised that one person on the flight was missing. Delhi-based lawyers and marriage counsellors tells us that this ‘post-honeymoon fight syndrome’ has become very common among Delhiites, and not just with those in arranged marriages, even those who marry for love also seem to face this issue. The most cases come from couples working in the IT and BPO sector. Drinking during the honeymoon, bringing out your past with your partner, getting a massage from another woman, being more conservative than your partner, too many phone calls from the partner’s family – these are some of the bizarre reasons for post-honeymoon divorces, say lawyers and counsellors.
Around 40-45 cases in the past nine months
Dr Nisha Khanna, a marriage counsellor in Sarvapriya Vihar, tells us, “Just recently, I got a case where a couple came to me just after returning from their honeymoon.”
Dr Khanna continues, “The wife complained that the husband started drinking during the honeymoon, and despite her requests, he did not stop. They started quarrelling after that, and it became so severe, that both of them called their respective families to come and help sort out their differences. Later, I found out that one of them was forced into this marriage. I get cases from love marriages also. In the past nine months, I’ve had around 45-50 cases where the couple come to me just after returning from their honeymoon.” Pritha Sen, another south-Delhi based marriage counsellor, says, “Compared to last year, there was a 30% increase in post-honeymoon divorce cases this year. And out of that 30%, 5% of the cases were from couples who had a love marriage. Recently, I got a case where the husband complained that after every two hours, the girl’s family would call and that affected the quality time they were supposed to spend together. The husband got annoyed and said some insensitive things to the wife, and this led to a bitter quarrel. When they returned from their honeymoon, they had made up their minds about getting divorced.”
Couples realise they’re non-compatible on honeymoon
Prachi Singh, an advocate from Defence Colony, tells us, “I get around 3-4 cases in a week where the couples want a divorce immediately after the honeymoon. When I read this news of the man walking away, I wasn’t that surprised, as I get such queries from Delhi almost everyday. Couples come to me just 10 days after marriage, saying they want to get separated. The reason, they say, is that they were not compatible during the honeymoon. I tell them that under Section 14 of the Hindu Marriage Act of 1955, no petition for divorce can be filed within one year of the marriage unless it is of extreme hardship. But the couples are not ready to listen and become impatient. Most of them are from the IT and MNC sectors.” Vidhi Mathur, another city-based lawyer, says, “I had this case once where the husband liked talking about sports and the wife liked talking about cooking, and on their honeymoon, differences started cropping up. By the time they returned home, it had turned into an ego issue and they came to me saying they wanted to separate.”
Couples cite bizarre reasons for divorce
Veerji Sharma, a marriage counsellor from Hauz Khas, says, “A couple came to me once, where the wife said that during their honeymoon, the husband left her and went to a beach in Pattaya to get a massage. The wife got furious. When they returned home, they came to me and the angry wife wanted a divorce. In the past six months, I’ve received around 25-30 cases where right after the honeymoon, because of some bizarre reason, the couple wants to separate.” Vandana Jain, another counsellor from West Delhi, says, “Honeymoon fights resulting in a separation is increasing in Delhi and the NCR. Whether you blame their lifestyle or just mood swings, I’ve been getting queries from at least 5-7 people on a daily basis. And most of these cases are direct results of unpleasant experiences during honeymoons. Reasons such as, ‘my husband danced with another woman during our honeymoon’ or ‘he left me in the restaurant alone to buy shoes for himself’, are given when I hold a counselling session with couples.”
This Trend is on the rise in Delhi: Marriage counsellors
Marriage counsellor Dr Rekha Mehta from Inder Puri, tells us, “This trend is on the rise in Delhi. As compared to last year, this year, I got 30% more such cases, which is a clear indication that this kind of divorce is being increasingly seen. Earlier, couples who’ve been married for two to five years would get separated; now, after just 15 days of marriage, couples walk up to me and start telling me their concerns, based on which they want a divorce.” Niharika Wadhwa, another marriage counsellor, says, “Last year, I got around 10 cases on an average every month, but this year, every week, I get around 3-4 such cases.”
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